Feeling Angry

🪞 What You're Feeling

• A rush of energy, tension, or heat in your body
• Irritability or impatience with everything — and everyone
• A sense of injustice or being repeatedly unheard
• Thoughts racing toward blame, defense, or attack
• Feeling like you're about to snap — or already have

🔍 Why You Might Feel This

Anger often arises when something important feels violated — a boundary, a value, a basic need. It may come from long-held resentment, recent disrespect, or hidden hurt.

Many of us weren’t taught how to feel anger safely. We suppress it, then explode. Or turn it inward. But anger isn’t bad. It’s a signal — and it deserves listening, not silencing.

🧘‍♀️ Try This Right Now

These grounding actions aren’t about extinguishing your anger — they’re about holding it wisely. Let it move, let it speak, let it settle.

1. Clench your fists tight — then release them slowly
   → Engaging muscle tension gives anger a safe place to exit.
2. Place your hands on your chest or belly and breathe deeply
   → This invites your body to remember it’s not in danger.
3. Write (but don’t send) an “unfiltered” note about what made you angry
   → Expression matters, even when no one sees it.
4. Say out loud: “Something important is being ignored.”
   → Naming the deeper need under the anger builds clarity.
5. Splash cold water on your face — slowly
   → Temperature shift can disrupt anger’s spiral.

📚 Support Tools

• Rage Becomes Her by Soraya Chemaly — a powerful book on reclaiming anger, especially for women, as a force for justice and healing.
• The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner — a classic on using anger as a map toward clearer boundaries and self-respect.
• Why some anger can be good for you — TED Talk exploring what anger really means and how we can use it well.
• 10-Minute Meditation For Anger — a short practice for releasing anger without judgment.

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